Dear Young Chloe’,
Hey how’s life right now? Yeah, I know you think it’s the end of the world, but believe me we will get through this. It is going to get worse before it gets better and in some ways it never gets better, or at least it hasn’t gotten better yet. I wanted to write to you and tell you a few things that will help you get through our hardest time.
You will find out that you can’t trust those close to you anymore. Yes they will be family members and other leaders that will show their true colors to you. I know that right now you feel like you have to trust them, but in a year or so you will come to the decision that you will never trust someone simply because you feel obligated to. You will trust someone because they have proven themselves worthy of your trust. It won’t matter if someone is a favored leader of a place, or if someone has their Ph.D. If they don’t prove that you should trust them you won’t and you don’t have to. Trust is something that is earned, and you will hear this a lot from people. Well it is time to take that into practice yourself. Let people earn your trust and you will find the ones that deserve it.
You will be slow to forgive and you will never forget. You will never forget the way a person has treated you during this time and for a while you will harbor bad feelings to these people. You will learn to forgive though. Just never forget, for when you forget it leads you open to be hurt in the same way as before. Learn from your mistake in this.
You will learn to put your happiness first. We are still learning this so it’s a longer process. At the end of the day if you aren’t happy then there is something that is wrong. You shouldn’t worry all the time about whether so or so is happy with what decisions you are making. They are your decisions and when there are mistakes they are your mistakes.
Don’t let people drag you down or make you feel like you can’t accomplish something. You will soon come to a decision that you know some are strongly against, but don’t let them dictate what you should do. Let them know your reasoning behind your decision and that you aren’t doing anything out of anger. If they can’t see your point then there is nothing else to do. Sometimes it takes time for people to come around to your reasoning.
You will have some fun memories ahead and some amazing opportunities as well. Enjoy these, enjoy each and every moment of these so that when you have your times when you feel like nothing is going right you can think back on these. They will help lift you up and motivate you in the seasons to follow. So, keep your head up and face tomorrow. I believe in you.
Your Future Self